Acceptance, Denial & Sublimation

Dear Blogger Family & Friends,

Welcome, welcome, welcome. Big hugs all around to each and every one of you.Hope you had a happy St. Paddy's Day.....whether you were guzzling green beer in a local pub, or sharing corned beef and a movie in the midst of a pre-Spring blizzard. I personally enjoyed an evening of good food, company, and conversation with the lovely lasses from our SOS support group. And, on the other end of the coast, my son and girlfriend were playing planes, trains and automobiles in an attempt to get from Seattle to Philadelphia....a little more adventure than they bargained for, but a memorable Spring Break none-the-less.

"We can only lie to ourselves for so long. We are tired, we are scared. Denying it doesn't change the truth. Sooner or later we have to put aside our denial and face the world....Head on, guns blazing.
De Nile. It's not just a river in Egypt, it's a freakin' ocean! So, how do you keep from drowning in it?"

-Meredith Grey (Grey's Anatomy)

Did you ever have one of those days, weeks, or life when you find it increasingly difficult to focus on the issues at hand (family, work, money, health, relationships, etc.), and dream of being invisible?.....Nothing could see you, touch you, penetrate or hurt you? Let's face it, who doesn't prefer to get lost in fantasy rather than face the truth head on. Sometimes it's easier to run for cover, rather than fight the proverbial two-headed monster.

If we deny our problems, no matter how inflated, we are basically denying the truth. Smoke screens only make it all the more difficult to accept our situations and find resolutions. You can't fix what you won't admit is broken. The real questions you should be asking are, "What are my fears......and how can I bring stability back to my life?" How you feel and choose to handle the realities of your life can strongly influence what happens tomorrow, however slow the process.

During a recent visit to Ohio, my dad (a.k.a. Papa Bear),and I, were sitting at the kitchen table discussing acceptance, denial and *sublimation. You know, just your average dinner conversation......I invited him to contribute his thoughts to the Pink Crusader blog spot and he kindly agreed. So, this week I am proud to share some words of wisdom from my beloved father.

Papa Bear writes:
Josie, I have been reading all your posts and following with interest the various forms of sublimation (not denial for sure) you have been using to deal with the new reality of your life. Doing something positive for ourselves and others, when our soul is in pain, is the essence of the wisdom of the ages, and is the stuff that **Eros is made of. If you keep structuring your life with the right balance of dreams and reality, you will get excellent results.
- Saverio Caruso, M.D.

Personal Note: Thanks Dad! Not only are you my intellectual and spiritual advisor, but you remain one of the truly great Renaissance men. I know many people will benefit from your encouraging words. God Bless You!

*Sublimation is the transformation of unwanted impulses into something less harmful. When we are faced with the dissonance of uncomfortable thoughts, we create psychic energy. This has to go somewhere. Sublimation channels this energy away from destructive acts and into something that is socially acceptable and/or creatively effective. Sublimation is probably the most useful and constructive of the defense mechanisms as it takes the energy of something that is potentially harmful and turns it to doing something good and useful.
Source: www.google.com

**Throughout Greek mythology, there appear to be two sides to the conception of Eros; in the first, he is a primeval deity who embodies not only the force of erotic love but also the creative urge of ever-flowing nature. In the second version, Eros is the firstborn Light that is responsible for the coming into being and ordering of all things in the cosmos. Source: www.google.com

DAILY REMINDER: "Fund Free Mammograms"
Go to The Breast Cancer Site at http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/tpc/EEB_0115_BCSm
and help fund free mammograms for the homeless, working-poor, and un-insured women. It costs nothing to you, except one daily click on the pink "Fund Free Mammograms" button. You can even request automatic reminders via e-mail. Please make your free click now, and thanks for your continuing support! The Breast Cancer Site, One Union Square, 600 University Street, Suite 1000, Seattle, WA 98101
Phone: 1-888-811-5271

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Free Massage Session for People Living with Cancer
March 21, 22, 23, 2007, 10:30 am - 12:00 pm
Houston Community College, by appointment only
Contact Deborah Kelly, Massage Therapy Program Director
713-718-7389 or deborah.kelly@hccs.edu

Rosebuds II Meeting
Thursday, March 22, 2007
5:45 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.

Pink Lemonade Guild Plate Painting
Pink Ribbons Project
Guild members and family only
Sunday, March 25, 3:00-5:00pm
PICNIK Restaurant, 1928 Bissonnet

"Brushes with Greatness"
The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center
teams up with Saks Fifth Avenue, April 12, 2007 6:30-8:30pm
Ticket Price $25.00* For more info: bsmp@mdanderson.org
(Guests will receive $25 gift card to be used for cosmetics)
*A percentage of sales will benefit the
Beth Sanders Moore Young Breast Cancer Survivor's Program
at The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center

Susan's Rally Golf Tournament
in the fight against breast cancer
Monday, April 16 281-480-7744
3820 San Jacinto, Houston TX 77004
www.susanrally.org

Relay for Life of Cy Fair College
American Cancer Society Overnight Event
April 27 & 28, 2007, 7:00pm - 7:00am
www.acsevents.org/cyfair for info & registration

Breast Cancer: Its Effect on Spouses & Others
Saturday, April 28, 2007
M.D. Anderson Cancer Center
The Beth Sanders Moore Young Breast Cancer Survivor's Program
www.mdanderson.org/youngbreastsurvivor
Email: bsmp@mdanderson.org

Susan's Rally
Sunday, April 29
For info: 713-526-2747
www.susanrally.org

The National Breast Cancer Coalition/Fund
2007 Annual Advocacy Training Conference(NBCC)
"Beyond Ribbons to Revolution"
April 28 - May 1, 2007
Hyatt Regency Crystal City, Arlington, VA
703-418-1234
Conference Contact: The Event Professionals
Email:nbccinfo@theeventpros.net 678-502-1454

The 2nd Annual Cancer Patient & Caregiver Conference
Friday, May 4, 2007. Registration:9:00am
Program begins at 9:30am-2:30pm.
Dr Michael Keating from MD Anderson will be the keynote speaker.
Location: United Way Building 50 Waugh Drive.
To Register: 713-520-9873 Contact Person: Elizabeth Wilson
www.cancercouseling.info

Relay For Life of Angelina County
American Cancer Society
May 4th & 5th, 2007
Lufkin Middle School

Relay For Life® is a fun-filled overnight event designed to bring together those who have been touched by cancer in our community. At the event, we celebrate survivorship and raise money to help the American Cancer Society in its mission to save lives, help those who have been touched by cancer, and empower individuals to fight back.
http://www.acsevents.org/angelina/positivepinkdynamite

Walk to Empower
3-Mile walk, Sunday, May 13, 2007
MacGregor Park, Houston, Tx 9:00am
Y-ME National Breast Cancer Organization
No Fee Register online at www.y-me.org

The Alice Thomsen Lymphedema Awareness Group of Houston
Meetings are scheduled on the 3rd Tuesday of every other month at the American cancer Society Building,6301 Richmond (between Hillcroft and Fountainview) at 7:00pm. The 2007 dates are May 15th, July 17th, September 18 and November 20th.
For further information call 281-546-6438.

"The Faces behind Breast Cancer" Launch Party
Save the date, Sunday August 26, at 1:00 pm.
Details will be announced in future posts.

Living Fully
M.D. Anderson Annual Conference
September 6-8 2007
Marriott Westchase - Houston, Texas
Additional information is not available at this time.

Tour De Pink 2007
Pink Ribbons Project
September 9, 2007
at Prairie View A&M University
www.tourdepink.org
Additional info in future posts.

"Sharing is Caring"
Posts are updated every Sunday. As always, The Pink Crusader welcomes your comments, stories, poems, and events. Please send your written contributions to thepinkcrusader1@aol.com.

"Self-acceptance comes from meeting life's challenges vigorously. Don't numb yourself to your trials and difficulties, nor build mental walls to exclude pain from your life. You will find peace not by trying to escape your problems, but by confronting them courageously. You will find peace not in denial, but in victory."

-J. Donald Walters

Until next week, stay strong, stay well, and keep on dancing in the real world!


Love, Josie
The Pink Crusader
thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

Did I Miss Something?

Dear Blogger Family and Friends,

This week, as with every week, I greet you with a warm welcome and BIG hug! Hope you are all doing well and feeling fit,fabulous, and fantastic!

"By labor we can find food and water, but all of our labor will not find for us another hour."

-Kenneth Patton

What a difference a day makes....especially when you are short-changed by one hour! Nothing like a dose of daylight savings time to rattle your system. Stick your face into a bowl of ice water and you'll get the same effect. Shock therapy! I know there is a logical explanation behind this disruptive process, but my brain won't buy it. And, once my body gets in sync, it will be time to re-adjust the clocks again!

On the practical side, when was the last time you took inventory of the number of clocks in your home...including watches, VCR's, oven, microwave, computer and car. It takes time to adjust time!

Some of you may think I'm over-stating my case, but as a cancer survivor I have an acute awareness and appreciation of the ticking clock. Time is precious, but it is not my friend. I live my life moment to moment...day to day, and squeeze as much as I can between sunrise to sunset. There is no luxury of looking too far into the future nor the luxury of procrastinating to complete a task at hand. Times a wastin' and nothing is going to break my stride....not even daylight savings time!

Moving on, this week I would like to pass on some light reading, compliments of my good friend Rosemary Herron. This is not only funny, but a good incentive to turn back time....Enjoy!

I OWE MY MOTHER (& some of these I OWE MY FATHER, TOO!)

1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE.
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning."

2. My mother taught me RELIGION.
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."

3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!"

4. My mother taught me LOGIC.
" Because I said so, that's why."

5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC.
"If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me."

6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."

7. My mother taught me IRONY.
"Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about."

8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS.
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper."

9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM.
"Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!"

10. My mother taught me about STAMINA.
"You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone."

11. My mother taught me about WEATHER.
"This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it."

12 My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.
"If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exaggerate!"

13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."

14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION.
"Stop acting like your father!"

15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do."

16. My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION.
"Just wait until we get home."

17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING.
"You are going to get it when you get home!"

18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
"If you don't stop crossing your eyes, they are going to freeze that way."

19. My mother taught me ESP.
"Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?"

20. My mother taught me HUMOR.
"When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me."

21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT.
"If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up."

22. My mother taught me GENETICS.
"You're just like your father."

23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS.
"Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn?"

24. My mother taught me WISDOM.
"When you get to be my age, you'll understand."

25. And my favorite: My mother taught me about JUSTICE.
"One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you!"

PERSONAL NOTE: Thank you, Rosemary, for your humorous contribution to this week's blog post. As always, I encourage all of our readers to pass along their stories, poetry, comments and events to The Pink Crusader. Just e-mail your information to thepinkcrusader1@aol.com. Posts are updated every Sunday.

DAILY REMINDER: "Fund Free Mammograms"
Go to The Breast Cancer Site at http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/tpc/EEB_0115_BCSm
and help fund free mammograms for the homeless, working-poor, and un-insured women. It costs nothing to you, except one daily click on the pink "Fund Free Mammograms" button. You can even request automatic reminders via e-mail. Please make your free click now, and thanks for your continuing support! The Breast Cancer Site, One Union Square, 600 University Street, Suite 1000, Seattle, WA 98101
Phone: 1-888-811-5271

UPCOMING EVENTS:

SHOP for a CAUSE
Macy's has again selected The Rose to participate in their SHOP for a CAUSE campaign, on Saturday, March 17th from 9 a.m. to 10 p.m. By making a $5 donation to The Rose, participants will receive an all-day 20% or 15% off shopping pass, $10 off a $20 purchase or more coupon, and a chance to win a $500 shopping spree. The passes are good at ANY MACY'S. There are 1,500 passes available. If you are interested in helping, please contact Kristi Brown, Special Events Coordinator
The Rose- 12700 N. Featherwood, Ste. 260, Houston, TX 77034
(281) 464-5142 direct
(281) 464-2743 fax
www.the-rose.org

The Alice Thomsen Lymphedema Awareness Group of Houston
Meetings are scheduled on the 3rd Tuesday of every other month at the American cancer Society Building,6301 Richmond (between Hillcroft and Fountainview) at 7:00pm. The 2007 dates are March 20th, May 15th, July 17th, September 18 and November 20th.
For further information call 281-546-6438.

Free Massage Session for People Living with Cancer
March 21, 22, 23, 2007, 10:30 am - 12:00 pm
Houston Community College, by appointment only
Contact Deborah Kelly, Massage Therapy Program Director
713-718-7389 or deborah.kelly@hccs.edu

Pink Lemonade Guild Plate Painting
Pink Ribbons Project
Guild members and family only
Sunday, March 25, 3:00-5:00pm
PICNIK Restaurant, 1928 Bissonnet

"Brushes with Greatness"
The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center
teams up with Saks Fifth Avenue, April 12, 2007 6:30-8:30pm
Ticket Price $25.00* For more info: bsmp@mdanderson.org
(Guests will receive $25 gift card to be used for cosmetics)
*A percentage of sales will benefit the
Beth Sanders Moore Young Breast Cancer Survivor's Program
at The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center

Susan's Rally Golf Tournament
in the fight against breast cancer
Monday, April 16 281-480-7744
3820 San Jacinto, Houston TX 77004
www.susanrally.org

Relay for Life of Cy Fair College
American Cancer Society Overnight Event
April 27 & 28, 2007, 7:00pm - 7:00am
www.acsevents.org/cyfair for info & registration

Susan's Rally
Sunday, April 29
For info: 713-526-2747
www.susanrally.org

The National Breast Cancer Coalition/Fund
2007 Annual Advocacy Training Conference(NBCC)
"Beyond Ribbons to Revolution"
April 28 - May 1, 2007
Hyatt Regency Crystal City, Arlington, VA
703-418-1234
Conference Contact: The Event Professionals
Email:nbccinfo@theeventpros.net 678-502-1454

The 2nd Annual Cancer Patient & Caregiver Conference
Friday, May 4, 2007. Registration:9:00am
Program begins at 9:30am-2:30pm.
Dr Michael Keating from MD Anderson will be the keynote speaker.
Location: United Way Building 50 Waugh Drive.
To Register: 713-520-9873 Contact Person: Elizabeth Wilson
www.cancercouseling.info

Relay For Life of Angelina County
American Cancer Society
May 4th & 5th, 2007
Lufkin Middle School

Relay For Life® is a fun-filled overnight event designed to bring together those who have been touched by cancer in our community. At the event, we celebrate survivorship and raise money to help the American Cancer Society in its mission to save lives, help those who have been touched by cancer, and empower individuals to fight back.
http://www.acsevents.org/angelina/positivepinkdynamite

Walk to Empower
3-Mile walk, Sunday, May 13, 2007
MacGregor Park, Houston, Tx 9:00am
Y-ME National Breast Cancer Organization
No Fee Register online at www.y-me.org

"The Faces behind Breast Cancer" Launch Party
Save the date, Sunday August 26, at 1:00 pm.
Details will be announced in future posts.

Living Fully
M.D. Anderson Annual Conference
September 6-8 2007
Marriott Westchase - Houston, Texas
Additional information is not available at this time.

Tour De Pink 2007
Pink Ribbons Project
September 9, 2007
at Prairie View A&M University
www.tourdepink.org
Additional info in future posts.

"Time is a companion that goes with us on a journey. It reminds us to cherish each moment, because it will never come again. What we leave behind is not as important as how we have lived."

- Captain Jean-Luc Picard (Star Trek)

Until next week, stay strong, stay well, and keep on dancing as if there was no tomorrow! Happy St. Patrick's Day!



Love, Josie
The Pink Crusader
thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

Stepping out of My Skin

Dear Blogger Family and Friends,

A big hug and warm welcome from the snowy hills of Northeastern Ohio! The Pink Crusader finally reunited with family and friends in the Midwest, following eight long months of cancer treatment. There is nothing like the love and support of family and friends to help ease you back into the real world. What could be better than familiar faces, sights, sounds and smells....all wrapped up in one beautiful homecoming package. It may be a simple view from where I sit, but never-the-less, I feel like I'm sitting on top of the world!

"Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city."

-George Burns

I was inspired to write this post today, following a conversation with my youngest sister, Cindy. We were sharing a good laugh over the state of my barely-there-hair, when she remarked, "After all you've been through, it must be nice to leave the cancer bubble and step outside your skin." She was right. Metaphorically speaking, it is the equivalent thrill of putting on a brand new outfit after living in worn pajamas and fatigued hospital gowns for the better part of a year....it feels good and looks marvelous! I am happy! In fact, I'm happy on top of happy! I'm so happy, I'm doing cartwheels in the snow! I'm so happy it should be illegal! In other words,
I'm H-A-P-P-Y!!!!!!!!!

Special thanks to Papa Bear, my brother, sisters, and gallery of friends who never made me feel like a victim, or any less than the person I strive to be. I have faced the front line, and fought for this happy reunion. P.S. Hey Larry, thanks for the home-made venison chili! It was hot enough to kill mosquitoes, but very tasty!

On that note, I would like to move along to a beautiful poem written by my friend, and guest contributor, Cheryl Donlin.

Aloneness
(Newly-diagnosed)

The silence beats upon my mind
fanning out in waves of
tone on tone.

It echoes in my heart and ricochets
spilling out in toneless sighs
of soul-song.

Shattering what was and reforging
who and what and how
I am.
-Anna Lucile Dunn & Cheryl P. Donlin


PERSONAL NOTE: Thank you, Cheryl, for sharing such touching words that others may benefit from your personal journey. I know your poem evoked many emotions, and is especially poignant because it was written in collaboration with your late mother. What a loving tribute to her, as well.

DAILY REMINDER: "Fund Free Mammograms"
Go to The Breast Cancer Site at http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/tpc/EEB_0115_BCSm
and help fund free mammograms for the homeless, working-poor, and un-insured women. It costs nothing to you, except one daily click on the pink "Fund Free Mammograms" button. You can even request automatic reminders via e-mail. Please make your free click now, and thanks for your continuing support! The Breast Cancer Site, One Union Square, 600 University Street, Suite 1000, Seattle, WA 98101
Phone: 1-888-811-5271

Take One Minute to Help Others
This is a simple and helpful thing we can all do.

You probably have never thought of this, but women's shelters in the U.S. go through thousands of tampons and pads monthly. Assistance agencies generally help with expenses of "everyday" necessities such as toilet paper, diapers, and clothing, but one of the most BASIC needs is overlooked - feminine hygiene products. (Who is at the helm of the funding assistance agencies anyway!?)

Seventh Generation, a green paper products and cleaning products company, has a do-good attitude and will donate a box of sanitary products to a women's shelter in your chosen state - just for clicking the link. Talk about easy (literally takes less than 1 minute and they ask nothing of you). And, yes, it is legitimate!

http://www.tampontification.com/donate.php

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Rosebuds
Breast Cancer Support Group Meeting
Tuesday evening, March 6, 2007
5:45 - 7:30 pm

PAINT THE rodeo PINK!FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
March 6, 2007 — Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo™ officials are encouraging Houstonians and visitors alike to “Paint the Rodeo Pink!” Wednesday, March 7, in support of Breast Cancer Awareness. Sheryl Crow is performing that day after having to cancel in 2006 due to breast cancer surgery.

Breast Cancer Awareness materials will be available at the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo, provided by the Susan G. Komen for the Cure Houston Affiliate, a global leader in the fight against breast cancer through its support of innovative research and community-based outreach programs.

Tickets are still available for the Wednesday, March 7, performance.
The Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo runs now through March 18. Tickets can be purchased at Ticketmaster outlets, including Reliant Park, by phone at 800.726.1313, and online at www.rodeohouston.com.

Rosebuds II Meeting
Thursday evening, March 8, 2007
5:45 - 7:30 pm

SHOP for a CAUSE
Macy's has again selected The Rose to participate in their SHOP for a CAUSE campaign, on Saturday, March 17th from 9 a.m. to 10 p.m. By making a $5 donation to The Rose, participants will receive an all-day 20% or 15% off shopping pass, $10 off a $20 purchase or more coupon, and a chance to win a $500 shopping spree. The passes are good at ANY MACY'S. There are 1,500 passes available. If you are interested in helping, please contact Kristi Brown, Special Events Coordinator
The Rose- 12700 N. Featherwood, Ste. 260, Houston, TX 77034
(281) 464-5142 direct
(281) 464-2743 fax
www.the-rose.org

The Alice Thomsen Lymphedema Awareness Group of Houston
Meetings are scheduled on the 3rd Tuesday of every other month at the American cancer Society Building,6301 Richmond (between Hillcroft and Fountainview) at 7:00pm. The 2007 dates are March 20th, May 15th, July 17th, September 18 and November 20th.
For further information call 281-546-6438.

Pink Lemonade Guild Plate Painting
Pink Ribbons Project
Guild members and family only
Sunday, March 25, 3:00-5:00pm
PICNIK Restaurant, 1928 Bissonnet

"Brushes with Greatness"
The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center
teams up with Saks Fifth Avenue, April 12, 2007 6:30-8:30pm
Ticket Price $25.00* For more info: bsmp@mdanderson.org
(Guests will receive $25 gift card to be used for cosmetics)
*A percentage of sales will benefit the
Beth Sanders Moore Young Breast Cancer Survivor's Program
at The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center

Susan's Rally Golf Tournament
in the fight against breast cancer
Monday, April 16 281-480-7744
3820 San Jacinto, Houston TX 77004
www.susanrally.org

Susan's Rally
Sunday, April 29
For info: 713-526-2747
www.susanrally.org

The National Breast Cancer Coalition/Fund
2007 Annual Advocacy Training Conference(NBCC)
"Beyond Ribbons to Revolution"
April 28 - May 1, 2007
Hyatt Regency Crystal City, Arlington, VA
703-418-1234
Conference Contact: The Event Professionals
Email:nbccinfo@theeventpros.net 678-502-1454

The 2nd Annual Cancer Patient & Caregiver Conference
Friday, May 4, 2007. Registration:9:00am
Program begins at 9:30am-2:30pm.
Dr Michael Keating from MD Anderson will be the keynote speaker.
Location: United Way Building 50 Waugh Drive.
To Register: 713-520-9873 Contact Person: Elizabeth Wilson
www.cancercouseling.info
4101 Greenbriar, Ste 317, Houston, TX 77098.

Walk to Empower
3-Mile walk, Sunday, May 13, 2007
MacGregor Park, Houston, Tx 9:00am
Y-ME National Breast Cancer Organization
No Fee Register online at www.y-me.org

"The Faces behind Breast Cancer" Launch Party
Save the date, Sunday August 26, at 1:00 pm.
Details will be announced in future posts.

Living Fully
M.D. Anderson Annual Conference
September 6-8 2007
Marriott Westchase - Houston, Texas
Additional information is not available at this time.

Tour De Pink 2007
Pink Ribbons Project
September 9, 2007
at Prairie View A&M University
www.tourdepink.org
Additional info in future posts.

Play time is over. As always, I encourage you to pass along your stories, comments and events to The Pink Crusader, and look forward to hearing from you.

"Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory."

-Albert Schweitzer

Until next week, stay strong, stay well, and keep on dancing (and doing cartwheels in the snow)!

Love, Josie
The Pink Crusader
thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

Hair Today......Bald Tomorrow

Dear Blogger Family and Friends,

A warm welcome and big hug to one and all. I missed you last week....and it feels good to be back in friendly territory.

"The person who knows how to laugh at himself will never cease to be amused."

-Shirley MacLaine

I do not generally indulge in celebrity gossip, but I couldn't let this one slip away. If you don't already know, singer Britney Spears recently shaved her head....on purpose. Although many critics think this was just the latest publicity stunt by the controversial celebrity, I think most of us level-headed observers realize that this poor girl is up to her eyebrows in emotional turmoil, and needs medical attention more than media hype.

And yet, that one single act, by a desperate young woman, hit a sour note with many people...in fact you could say it hit an exposed follicle! Come on, what's the fuss about? After all, we cancer survivors are the real trend-setters, compliments of chemotherapy. We have written the book on being bald.....and, it's not as bad as people make it out to be. Personally, I think it's very liberating. You never worry about "bed head" or "hat hair." And, I can't remember the last time I looked for a comb! In fact, I'd say that all the media coverage over Brit's "trendy new look", has spoiled some of our fun. I think that any profits from her locks (being sold on Ebay) should be donated to cancer research. What do you think?

O.K....let's change gears and switch to something a bit more humorous.
My sister Rosie sent me a list of the ten first-place winners in the International Pun Contest. Thanks Rosie, I know these puns will make the party circuits....
Laugh & enjoy:

1) A vulture boards an airplane, carrying two dead raccoons. The stewardess looks at him and says, "I'm sorry, sir, only one carrion allowed per passenger."

2) Two fish swim into a concrete wall. The one turns to the other and says, "DAM!"

3) Two Eskimos sitting in a kayak were chilly, so they lit a fire in the craft. Unsurprisingly, it sank....proving once again that you can't have your kayak and heat it too!

4) Two hydrogen atoms meet. One says, "I've lost my electron." The other says, "Are you sure?" The first replies, "Yes, I'm positive."

5) Did you hear about the Buddhist who refused Novocain during a root canal? His goal: transcent dental medication.

6) A group of chess enthusiasts checked into a hotel and were standing in the lobby discussing their recent tournament victories. After about an hour, the manager came out of the office and asked them to disperse. "But why?" they asked, as they moved off. "Because," he said, "I can't stand chess-nuts boasting in an open foyer."

7) A woman has twins and gives them up for adoption. One of them goes to a family in Egypt and is named, "Ahmal." The other goes to a family in Spain; they name him "Juan." Years later, Juan sends a picture of himself to his birth mother. Upon receiving the picture, she tells her husband that she wishes she also had a picture of Ahmal. Her husband responds, "They're twins! If you've seen Juan, you've seen Ahmal!"

8) A group of friars were behind on their belfry payments, so they opened up a small florist shop to raise funds. Since everyone liked to buy flowers from the men of God, a rival florist across town thought the competition was unfair. He asked the good fathers to close down, but they would not. He went back and begged the friars to close, but they ignored him. So, the rival florist hired Hugh MacTaggart, the roughest and most vicious thug in town to "persuade" them to close. Hugh beat up the friars and thrashed their store, saying he'd be back if they didn't close up shop. Terrified, they did so, thereby proving that only Hugh can prevent florist friars.

9) Mahatma Gandhi, as you know, walked barefoot most of the time, which produced an impressive set of calluses on his feet. He also ate very little, which made him rather frail, and, which gave him bad breath. This made him (Oh, man this is so bad, it's good)...a super calloused, fragile mystic, hexed by halitosis.

10) And finally, there was the person who sent ten different puns to all her blogger family and friends, with the hope that at least one of the puns would make them laugh.....No pun in ten did....(smile)

"Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine."

- Lord Byron


Personal Note: I had a terrific time at the Pink Pump Awards 2007 & Guild Luncheon, on Feb 22nd, and send my congratulations to award recipients Rosemary & Ron Barr, as well as Denise & Lothar Batschauer, and Margaret Shelton for their deep committment and volunteer efforts within the cancer community. P.S. Hey, B.Kaye....glad to see you up and around....hope we see more of you now that you're on the mend.

Also, special get-well wishes to my friend Patty, following recent surgery. And, thoughts and prayers to my pal Tracy, who will undergo surgery this week. You can do
it!

DAILY REMINDER: "Fund Free Mammograms"
Go to The Breast Cancer Site at http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/tpc/EEB_0115_BCSm
and help fund free mammograms for the homeless, working-poor, and un-insured women. It costs nothing to you, except one daily click on the pink "Fund Free Mammograms" button. You can even request automatic reminders via e-mail. Please make your free click now, and thanks for your continuing support! The Breast Cancer Site, One Union Square, 600 University Street, Suite 1000, Seattle, WA 98101
Phone: 1-888-811-5271

UPCOMING EVENTS:

2007 Pink Tie Gala
The 2007 Pink Tie Gala will be held on Saturday, March 3rd at 6:30 p.m. at the InterContinental Hotel. The evening will include a luxury auction, dinner, legendary comedian Bob Newhart and music by Fried Ice Cream. Sponsorships start at $5,000. Individual tickets for the Gala are $350 per person. For more information on sponsorships or tickets, please call 713.783.9188 or email info@komen-houston.org.

The Susan G. Komen for the Cure,Houston Affiliate
2425 Fountainview, Suite 210
Houston, TX 77057-4811
email: info@komen-houston.org

SHOP for a CAUSE
Macy's has again selected The Rose to participate in their SHOP for a CAUSE campaign, on Saturday, March 17th from 9 a.m. to 10 p.m. By making a $5 donation to The Rose, participants will receive an all-day 20% or 15% off shopping pass, $10 off a $20 purchase or more coupon, and a chance to win a $500 shopping spree. The passes are good at ANY MACY'S. There are 1,500 passes available. If you are interested in helping, please contact Kristi Brown, Special Events Coordinator
The Rose- 12700 N. Featherwood, Ste. 260, Houston, TX 77034
(281) 464-5142 direct
(281) 464-2743 fax
www.the-rose.org

The Alice Thomsen Lymphedema Awareness Group of Houston
Meetings are scheduled on the 3rd Tuesday of every other month at the American cancer Society Building,6301 Richmond (between Hillcroft and Fountainview) at 7:00pm. The 2007 dates are March 20th, May 15th, July 17th, September 18 and November 20th.
For further information call 281-546-6438.

Pink Lemonade Guild Plate Painting
Pink Ribbons Project
Sunday, March 25, 3:00-5:00pm
PICNIK Restaurant, 1928 Bissonnet

"Brushes with Greatness"
The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center
teams up with Saks Fifth Avenue, April 12, 2007 6:30-8:30pm
Ticket Price $25.00* For more info: bsmp@mdanderson.org
(Guests will receive $25 gift card to be used for cosmetics)
*A percentage of sales will benefit the
Beth Sanders Moore Young Breast Cancer Survivor's Program
at The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center

Susan's Rally Golf Tournament
in the fight against breast cancer
Monday, April 16 281-480-7744
3820 San Jacinto, Houston TX 77004
www.susanrally.org

The National Breast Cancer Coalition/Fund
2007 Annual Advocacy Training Conference(NBCC)
"Beyond Ribbons to Revolution"
April 28 - May 1, 2007
Hyatt Regency Crystal City, Arlington, VA
703-418-1234
Conference Contact: The Event Professionals
Email:nbccinfo@theeventpros.net 678-502-1454

The 2nd Annual Cancer Patient & Caregiver Conference
Friday, May 4, 2007. Registration:9:00am
Program begins at 9:30am-2:30pm.
Dr Michael Keating from MD Anderson will be the keynote speaker.
Location: United Way Building 50 Waugh Drive.
To Register: 713-520-9873 Contact Person: Elizabeth Wilson
www.cancercouseling.info
4101 Greenbriar, Ste 317, Houston, TX 77098.

Walk to Empower
3-Mile walk, Sunday, May 13, 2007
MacGregor Park, Houston, Tx 9:00am
Y-ME National Breast Cancer Organization
No Fee Register online at www.y-me.org

"The Faces behind Breast Cancer" Launch Party
Save the date, Sunday August 26, at 1:00 pm.
Details will be announced in future posts.

Living Fully
M.D. Anderson Annual Conference
September 6-8 2007
Marriott Westchase - Houston, Texas
Additional information is not available at this time.

Tour De Pink 2007
Pink Ribbons Project
September 9, 2007
at Prairie View A&M University
www.tourdepink.org
Additional info in future posts.

Well, it's been fun sharing time, and a few good laughs, with all of you. As always, I encourage you to pass along your stories, comments and events to The Pink Crusader, and look forward to hearing from you.

Until next week, stay strong, stay well, and keep on dancing (and chewing gum at the same time).



Love, Josie
The Pink Crusader
thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

Gone Fishing

Dear Blogger Family & Friends,

I think these difficult times have helped me to understand better than before how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many things that one goes around worrying about are of no importance whatsoever.

-Isak Dinesen


The Pink Crusader is "playing hooky" this week and will be back in action next week.

In the meantime, don't forget to mark your calendars for the following events:


Pink Pump Awards 2007 & Guild Luncheon
Thursday, February 22, 2007 Noon - 1:30pm
Daily Review Cafe’, 3412 W. Lamar, - valet parking available-
Honoring
Rosemary & Ron Barr and Denise & Lothar Batschauer
as well as Margaret Shelton, recipient of the
1st annual Sidi Tour de Pink Outstanding Volunteer Award
$20 per guest Credit Card required for Reservation
RSVP by February 19, 2007 713.524.PINK (7465) or Loubel@pinkribbons.org

Rosebuds II Meeting
Thursday, February 22, 2007
5:45 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.

"Brushes with Greatness"
The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center
teams up with Saks Fifth Avenue, April 12, 2007 6:30-8:30pm
Ticket Price $25.00* For more info: bsmp@mdanderson.org
(Guests will receive $25 gift card to be used for cosmetics)
*A percentage of sales will benefit the
Beth Sanders Moore YoungBreast Cancer Survivor's Program
at The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center

The 2nd Annual Cancer Patient & Caregiver Conference
Friday, May 4, 2007. Registration:9:00am Program begins at 9:30am-2:30pm.
Dr Michael Keating from MD Anderson will be the keynote speaker.
Location: United Way Building 50 Waugh Drive.
To Register: 713-520-9873 Contact Person: Elizabeth Wilson
www.cancercouseling.info
4101 Greenbriar, Ste 317, Houston, TX 77098.

Walk to Empower
3-Mile walk, Sunday, May 13, 2007
MacGregor Park, Houston, Tx 9:00am
Y-ME National Breast Cancer Organization
No Fee Register online at www.y-me.org

Stay strong, stay well, and keep on dancing!

Love, Josie
The Pink Crusader
thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

This Thing Called Love

You gotta give a little,
Take a little,
and let your poor heart break a little.
That's the story of,
that's the glory of love!

You gotta laugh a little,
Cry a little,
until the clouds roll by a little.
That's the story of,
that's the glory of love!

The Glory of Love - Lyrics by Billy Hill

Love, love, love......I love Valentine's Day. I love the fact that an entire day has been set aside just to celebrate L-O-V-E! I love everything it stands for and all the memories it evokes. First crush. First kiss. First love. I love the thought of people being giddy, gushy and googly-eyed. I love jewelry, chocolates and flowers and anything else that can be stuffed into a love-filled package. Put on some Barry White and I'll become your love slave!

On Valentine's Day you cannot ignore your emotions any more than you can ignore fireworks on the 4th of July. It's not just about hearts and red balloons, but also romance and emotional connections. You know that old expression, "wearing your heart on your sleeve." Love has a way of bringing all our emotions to the surface, especially on this special day. And, if your heart has been broken, don't get discouraged. Love will find you again. Love always finds its way, if you are open to it.

There are many ways to demonstrate your affection on Valentine's Day, whether you're a late bloomer or a seasoned player. While there are no laws about what's right or wrong, I strongly discourage "handshakes." I think a soft kiss or a warm hug are more appropriate for the occasion. Of course, the kiss has to fit the situation......such as an affectionate kiss on the cheek, playful kiss on the forehead, gallant kiss on the hand or a lustful lip-lock. Then, there's the continental double cheek kiss, polite air kiss, sloppy baby-drool kiss, spit-swap kiss, french kiss, and, the all time favorite, ambush kiss that you never saw coming but enjoyed none-the-less.

Whatever you do......don't fake it.....it has to come from the heart. I repeat, DO NOT FAKE IT!!!!!! You have 364 other days of the year to lie, but not on February 14th! Love is pure.....Be sweet, be tender......Be tactful and sincere. And, if words fail you, write a love note.....or, better yet, let Hallmark do the talking. It can't hurt and will probably help.

Having said all that, The Pink Crusader is playing the role of "Cupid" this week and proudly presents "Love Notes" from you and yours. To quote the Beatles,"all you need is love....love is all you need."Let the Lovefest Begin!

To Tony: You are still my #1 Valentine after all these years. I hope you bought me a nice present. Happy Valentine's Day! Love, Josie

Dear Children: Ti ricordi la leggenda di Dedalo ed Icaro? "Vola tra cielo e mare. Non volare troppo in alto perche' il sole sciogliera' la cera; Non volare troppo in basso perche l'umidita' bagnera'le penne. Vola tra l'uno e laltro". Be happy for the coming Valentine's Day. I went to the cemetery to see mother today. She joins me in wishing all of you and your families, the happiness you deserve and sending all our love. Mom and Daddy

To our Dad: Happy Valentine's Day! You're the glue who keeps us all together. We Love You! Love, Josie, Tony, Rosie, Joey, Mimi, Jim, Cindy, David, Grandchildren & Great-grandchild Trent

Dear Mom: Happy V-Day! Sorry I can't be home in Houston to eat your
chocolates and jelly beans. I hope you have a special Valentine's day full
of Lifetime Movie Network! Keep your eyes on the mail for a little
something.Love, Dalip

To Dalip: You fill my world with love, joy, and laughter that only a child can bring into a mother's life.....plus you sent me a present which earns you extra points! Happy Valentine's Day, baby boy! I hope you and Trina have a wonderful celebration. If you were in Houston, I would share my Godiva's and Jelly Bellys with you.Love, Mom-mo

Happy Valentine's Day Josie and Tony: I miss you both and can't wait to see you guys later this year. Dalip says..."Congratulations on still
liking each other!" I think he's stupid.We(I especially)miss you both. Love,Trina

To Mariah & Cody: Happy Valentine's Day to the loves of my life- Mariah & Cody and the very special Caruso/Sethi/Geihsler/Hetrick/Miller Clans. Love, Rosie

To my Husband and Kids:....Happy Valentines Day!
Love, Mom Cindy

To Jim,Vanessa, Michael, Julie & Jon: Happy Valentines Day.."you are the sunshine of my life"....Love you guys, Mimi Mommy

To Josie, Rosie, Joey, and Cindy: May all of you get a little extra loving this Valentine's Day. Love, Mimi

To Ed:
The way you make me so happy,
The ways you show you care.
The way you say, "I Love You,"
You are a guy so rare!! Happy Valentine's Day!!! Love Always,Diane

Happy Valentines Day to My Wonderful Wife Diane, I Love going places with her, no matter where it is! Love Always, Ed

To all the girls I've ever hurt, cheated, loved, liked, disappointed, made fun of, or was just generally even a little bit disrespectful to: I'm truly sorry. You guys make the world a safer place. Happy Valentines day to you all!
J.W. Cooper

To Debra, A Valentine Poem
Another year
And I’m still here
So have no fear--
You’re still my dear!

And so we find
Love’s state of mind:
A tangled twine
We can’t unwind

Or should I say
Some other way
Love’s simple, and may
We simply seize our day?

Yes! Yes! It’s all of this:
A bit confused and Heaven’s bliss
Ah, love, let’s not chide and miss
Redemption in a tender kiss
Pete ‘06

Happy Valentine's Day Mommy!I love you! Neil and I will eternally be your Valentines, whoever comes and goes.I miss you and hope you see this,otherwise,I'll just call and tell you to read it.Love, Trina

Dear Sue:Wishing you a Happy Valentines Day from Philadelphia! I hear you're coming down in March, and we're looking forward to the visit! Saving
the bottle of Nicodemi for you...Love, Dalip

Dear Big C: My love to you and please know you are always in my daily prayers and thoughts. Love ya, Frank.

"HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!" to the 2 most beautiful women in the world to me: My daughter Maggan ,and my good friend Josie. They have done more for me, and the people around them, than they will ever know......I LOVE YOU BOTH!... And, Happy Valentine's Day to a new friend, a little Texas Cutie ... B.Kaye (will you marry me?).....just kidding!!! Love to everyone! Larry

To Larry: "I'm Here!!!" There's an empty chair next to me and a margarita waiting for you!!! Where are you?????". Hugs, B. Kaye

To Cancer Girl: Farm out and psychedelic hearts a fire. You're the girl I most admire.An original poem by the Bubblistofmeisters XOXOX

To Naked Coffee Boy: Nobody does coffee quite like you! Thanks for giving me my morning jump start! From: Bubbles XOXOXO

Hiya Josie:A big hug for you for the coming week.Take good care. Love,Sue

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away. - Anon

I saw this quotation on a poster.Yep, those special moments...Remember your very first kiss when you were a teenager?Love, Sandra

To Trina: Roses are red, Violets are blue, you smell like a monkey and throw like a girl. Love, Dalip

To Dalip:I'll buy you another rubber chicken. Happy Valentine's Day. I love you! Love, Trina.

FYI: UPCOMING EVENTS:

SOS Special Person Night
Just a friendly reminder to please RSVP if you are bringing a guest to honor at our Tuesday, Feb 13 meeting. We have set aside this meeting as "Special Person Night." The purpose is show your love and appreciation for someone who helped you before, during or after breast cancer. It could be a friend, your neighbor, a member of your church congregation, a family member. And if you want to bring your husband and are having difficulty persuading him because he "doesn't want to be the only guy there," please assure him that there will be other gentlemen present. Let's make this event a success. RSVP at marshayeager@yahoo.com or 281 431 0700.
Blessings, Marsha

Pink Pump Awards 2007 & Guild Luncheon
Thursday, February 22, 2007 Noon - 1:30pm
Daily Review Cafe’, 3412 W. Lamar, - valet parking available-
Honoring
Rosemary & Ron Barr and Denise & Lothar Batschauer
as well as Margaret Shelton, recipient of the
1st annual Sidi Tour de Pink Outstanding Volunteer Award
$20 per guest Credit Card required for Reservation
RSVP by February 19, 2007 713.524.PINK (7465) or Loubel@pinkribbons.org


Thanks to all who joined in the fun of this week's edition. I'll sign off by wishing you all a very happy and loving Valentine's Day. No matter who, what, where, when, why or how....make it a day to remember for yourself and for those who have danced their way into your life and into your heart. Now, throw in a can of whipped cream, and you've got dessert! Enjoy!

XOXOXOXOXOX
Josie
The Pink "Cupid" Crusader
thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

Things Past, Present and Future

Dear Blogger Family & Friends,

As always, I welcome you with a big smile and a warm hug. Hope you are all doing well and feeling as wonderful as you are!

This week I had the pleasure of attending a "big-girl" slumber party, hosted by my friend Rosemary. It was so much fun to turn back time and become 12 years old again. Try to imagine 8 grown women running around in pink pajamas, wearing tiaras, eating pizza, making friendship bracelets, and doing each other's nails! And, let's not forget learning to "Belly Dance in 10 Easy Lessons"........First, there is nothing "easy" about it unless you can move like Shakira or Brittany Spears. Second, we danced like we were having a group seizure. And Third, we all needed chiropractors by lesson six! It was a night for the record books and I thank Rosemary and company for the fabulous (and outrageous) experience. In fact, I think the world would be a better place if more people had pajama parties on a regular basis.....(tiaras and belly dancing optional).

If you're tired of the winter weather and in need of a "feel-good" experience, I highly recommend a heavy dose of "Dream Girls." This movie is a sure-cure for the winter blues! It's a groovy combination of Motown, disco and funk! (It's also a great retrospective of all my hair-do's and hair-don'ts from the 60's - 80's. Yes, the good old days before chemo turned me into Uncle Fester.) I now want to buy the cd, because I can't get the music out of my head!

There are many upcoming events in our future, and special thanks to all who contributed this week. I encourage more of you to share your stories, comments, words of wisdom, or newsworthy items with other members of the cancer community. Just send me an e-mail and I will post it right here in my weekly update.

VALENTINE SPECIAL: If you have a special message for that special someone in your life, and want the world to know, let the "Pink Crusader" publish it in the holiday edition of this blog spot. You know where to e-mail your mushy, gushy, words of love! thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

FYI: We continue to have technical problems with the "COMMENTS" section of the blog, but I can manually post comments if you send them to this address: thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

O.K., get your pen, take notes, and add the following to your social calendar:

From Cheryl Donlin:

I wanted to alert you that the stamp info previously posted on your blog is outdated. The value of this stamp today for first-class mailing is .45 cents. Of that, 6 cents goes to breast cancer research. I actually went to the post office to check it out, because on the usps website, it says this stamp is not available. That is incorrect, according to the post office personnel, who sold me a sheet of the stamps.

There is quite a history on this stamp. It originally came out in 1998. According to the usps website: "The Breast Cancer Research stamp is the first U.S. stamp in history to have its net proceeds above the cost of postage earmarked for research organizations. It is called a "semipostal" stamp."

Interestingly, after receiving a request from Hungary in 2005, the U. S. Postal Service agreed to share this design with Hungary for use in their breast cancer fund raising. Check out this link for more on this: www.usps.com/communications/news/stamps/2005/sr05_048.htm.

For background on the original stamp check out: www.usps.com/communications/news/stamps/2006/sr06_024.htm.

Note to Cheryl: Thank you so much for bringing this error to our attention. I apologize to our readers for posting outdated information.

From Rosemary Barr:
Mark your calendar and plan to attend:

Rosebuds II Meeting
Thursday, February 8, 2007
5:45 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.

See you then!

From Marsha Yeager:
Hi, ladies,

I just wanted to give you a "heads up" about the next S.O.S. meeting. Since it is the day before Valentine's Day (meeting date is Tuesday, February 13 @ 7 p.m.), we are planning something special. More details will follow in the upcoming newsletter. Please plan to set aside time for the meeting and join us.

From Rosemary Herron:

Be Empowered! Eat Chocolate With Breakfast

Who: Jan Bethancourt
When: February 17th
Time: 9:30 – 11:30 AM

To Register: call Adele (281) 265-5774

Cost: No charge and breakfast is included.
There will definitely be chocolate for breakfast!

Place: St. Lawrence Catholic Church
3100 Sweetwater Blvd.
In the Religious Education building across the street

Presentation is based on the author’s book

Be Empowered! Eat Chocolate with Breakfast

which contains encouraging sayings about attitude, confidence, courage and compassion. Jan’s goal is to prompt women to slow down and notice the little delights of life, to appreciate themselves and to allow others to appreciate them.The talk is focused on each woman as a unique individual, apart from every other role she takes on.


From Sandra Gomez:
Hi Ladies,

The 2nd Annual Cancer Patient & Caregiver Conference will be held on Friday, May 4, 2007. Registration: 9:00 am Program begins at 9:30 am - 2:30 pm. Dr Michael Keating from MD Anderson will be the keynote speaker.
Location: United Way Building 50 Waugh Drive.
To Register: 713-520-9873 Contact Person: Elizabeth Wilson
www.cancercouseling.info
4101 Greenbriar, Ste 317
Houston, TX 77098. PLEASE INVITE OTHERS TO THIS CONFERENCE.

On with dance! Let joy be unconfined;
No sleep till morn, when Youth and Pleasure meet
To chase the glowing hours with flying feet.

- George Gordon Byron


This concludes this week's edition. As always, stay well, stay strong, and keep on (belly) dancing!

Love, Josie
The Pink Crusader
thepinkcrusader1@aol.com

POST SCRIPT: Several people have questioned my husband's reaction to the belly dancing lessons......Well, knowing me, he was not surprised. However, he did wonder why the neighbors didn't have us arrested for public indecency or disturbing the peace. I explained that Rosemary's neighbor was a cop.....who sent his wife over to take pictures. End of story.